How you communicate is closely related to how you feel and your self-esteem.
When I am not communicating effectively it’s because I am not feeling confident that what I have to say has value or is important or that it will not be met with a conflicting point of view.
Continuing to communicate with people who have different communicating styles isn’t always your choice, such as family or a work situation.
When you don’t have a choice you can try not to change the way other people communicate but change the way you communicate and accept that you have said what needs to be said.
This is the difference between having healthy communications and dysfunctional communication.
Being compassionate when you are addressing someone, being assertive but keeping in mind their communication style.
Remember most of the stress you have in life comes from the way you respond, not the way life is. Communicate effectively and all that extra stress is gone.
Forms of communication
Assertiveness: This is the ideal form of communication and the healthiest way to communicate to have effective conversations.
- Friendly eye contact
- Open body language
- Congruence with speech and emotion
- Polite and respectful
- Appropriate tone and volume
- Soft spoken
- Avoiding conflict
- Lack of self esteem
- Seemingly in experienced
- Minimizing efforts
- Eye Rolling
- Seemingly unappreciative
- Loud Tones
- Aggressive Stance
- Physically, Verbally Abusive
When I have healthy conversations and am assertive with what I am trying to communicate, I feel empowered.
Assertive communication does not mean that the other person has to agree with what you are saying it just means you have communicated it effectively and were able to say what you wanted to say and felt heard.
When I am feeling low, my self esteem and confidence are affected. This can make it difficult for me to respond effectively.
Communicating in a healthy way can raise my confidence.
It can be frustrating when I am unable to communicate what I think and feel.
My thoughts and feelings are important and deserve to be heard and so are yours!
Hopefully these communication styles can help identify how you are communicating and how to effectively be heard.
What kind of communicator are you?
How does that work for you in your life?
I’d love to hear any tips you have and what works for you.
~Live Like a Butterfly